John Gill's Bible Commentary Ver. 1. And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul , etc.] In answer to his questions about his descent and family, and doubtless more things were talked of than are recorded: that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David : he won his heart, made a conquest of his affections, these went out towards him, and cleaved unto him; such were the comeliness of his person, his graceful mien and deportment, his freedom and fluency of expression, his courage and undauntedness, joined with prudence, modesty, and integrity, that they strongly attached him to him: and Jonathan loved him as his own soul ; not only according to the excellency of David’s soul, and the greatness of it, as that deserved respect and love, as Abarbinel suggests, but he loved him as he loved himself.
There was a similarity in their persons, in their age, in the dispositions of their minds, in their wisdom, courage, modesty, faithfulness, and openness of soul, that attracted them to each other, that they became as another self; as one soul, as Aristotle speaks of true friends: instances of very cordial friendship are given by Plutarch f385 , as in Theseus and Pirithous, Achilles and Patroclus, Orestes and Pylades, Pythias and Damon, Epaminondas and Pelopidas; but none equal to this.
Matthew Henry Commentary
Verses 1-5 - The friendship of David and Jonathan was the effect of Divine grace which produces in true believers one heart and one soul, and cause them to love each other. This union of souls is from partaking in the Spirit of Christ. Where God unites hearts, carnal matters are too wea to separate them. Those who love Christ as their own souls, will be willing to join themselves to him in an everlasting covenant. It wa certainly a great proof of the power of God's grace in David, that he was able to bear all this respect and honour, without being lifted u above measure.
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